Tip #12 "Strive to be good...not look good."

Recently, I was having lunch with some friends at a nearby restaurant. Four of us travelled in the same vehicle to and from the location. On the way back from lunch one of the people in the car mentioned how clean it was to the driver compared to how dirty their car was. He accepted the compliment kindly. Someone spoke up and said "You should see my car and you would feel better about your car." There was a snicker. And then this same person said "You should see his house. Then, you would know that he really isn't as clean as you think he is."

A period of time later the two men spoke and the one said to the other something like "Why did you say that about my house?" The other said "It is good to be vulnerable so that people will open up to you and trust you. It is good to admit our faults openly. We all have them."

This man's intentions were good because he strives to be good not to look good.

Why is it that so many of us(me included) strive so much to look better than we really are? Let's just admit that we are messed up and need help just like everyone else. It's okay. In fact, it is quite refreshing. Just say it. In fact, there is somebody in your life that you want to call right now and say "Ya know I am really a phony. Here are a few things that are messed up about me."

If the person on the other end of the phone does not start admitting something about themselves then I suggest that you move on to someone that wants to have a real relationship.

I hope that I do not sound too harsh saying the following...But, I personally do not have time for people that want to act like they are perfect instead of striving to actually be a better person. The only way that I know to truly become better is on my knees praying and crying out to the Lord Jesus Christ to help me change. Only then do I even have a remote chance of being transformed. For I am a wicked and sinful man that needs Him every second of the day to help me be a better husband, dad, friend, brother, business man, and every other role that he has given to me.

Tip #12 "Strive to be good...not look good."